Self-love v Selfishness

Selfishness is when you are lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. Self -love is having regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.

Self-love is something everyone deserves and needs in their life. Unfortunately, many of us need to relearn what healthy self-love looks like as society, our parents and peers may have given us an unrealistic view of what self-love and self-care really means. Self-love and self-indulgence often become blurred through our materialistic blinders.

But Self-love is not greedy; it is not selfish, and you do need it.

Why is self-love so invaluable? Self-love is about filling you up and balancing you. Its is not about booking yourself into a spa for day or a one off treatment, it encompasses all of the following: Eating healthy, exercising, beauty routines, being in nature, meditation, relaxation and personal hobbies are all aspects of self-love that we need to make time for.

If you think of your experiences in life as a bank account, then you can think of these little self-love activities as deposits into that personal account. The more you deposit the more you can give when others may need a loan from you.

What would happen if you did not practice the above and a friend or family member came to you looking for assistance or in line with the above, a withdrawal? You will have nothing to give them as you have not saved any deposits and now both of you will lose. Making healthy deposits will fill you up and help balance you when other stresses come to take away from you, which is a benefit to you and others in the long term.

Self-love is not really about the self. It is just love and the more you give yourself the more you will be able to give others.